Daily Sex: How Much Sex Is Healthy?

One summer, when my boyfriend was laid off, we had sex every day. Twice. We always had this intense sexual energy between us. There were times that a mere mid-day text would instantly create droplets of moisture in my underwear. An entire afternoon at work left me desperate to hook up with him in the evening.

Sometimes, we had dinner together and a cuddle session while watching tv. By the time, we migrated to the bedroom, we were ready to go. Our post-coital bliss was like a super-efficient sleeping pill that helped us quickly drift into a deep sleep.

In the morning, he often woke me up with gentle kisses on my neck, as he softly rubbed my clit. Sometimes, I would pretend to want to sleep longer, but it wasn’t long before I gave in and opened up my legs.

After our morning sessions, I would stumble to the bathroom and get ready for work. When we first started doing this, I often came to work blissful and light. I always felt like I was floating and that my body was humming with this delectable secret. It had to be the endorphins that were pulsating throughout my body after each sex session. I was having sex twice a day, and believed I was living the dream.

By the 8th day of doing this, I wanted to tap out. My boyfriend didn’t. This might have been because he didn’t have to go to work after our morning sessions. He had the luxury of going back to sleep, but I did not. All it took was more kisses, a little sweet talk, and his commitment to getting me aroused, and I was back in the saddle. But 10 days into this jig, I was barely functioning at work. In fact, I distinctly remember passing out in the office pantry during my lunch break. When I returned to my desk, after a brief nap, I was still groggy and found it hard to concentrate.

I simply could not do this anymore. Not once and certainly not twice. We took a break for a few days. Maybe 5 or 6. Then, we resumed our daily sex sessions. This wasn’t sustainable long term, but for a couple of summer months, it was fun.

We often hear people complain about not getting laid. Whether they are in an actual relationship and it simply isn’t happening as often as they like. Or, they are single and sex may be hard to come back in and of itself. Never mind whether it is actually good or not?

Studies show that sex once a week provides a multitude of health benefits. It increases immune-boosting antibodies, reduces stress, improves your skin, reduces the propensity to experience depression, and improves sleep.

While conducting my own research, most people seemed to be ok with 1–2 times a week. There was the occasional outlier who was fine with 1–2 times a month, but in general, both men and women just wanted to be having sex with their partner.

Depending on the age and how long a couple has been together, swinging off the chandeliers every night, is probably an unrealistic expectation. Hence, the ideal frequency of sex is a decision best left for the people involved with each other, to make. After all, it’s not the actual act in and of itself, but the increased bonding and connection between two people that it creates, that is quintessential to the relationship.