Women Value Men With Resources — Make More of It or Shut up!

A scrub is a guy that thinks he’s fly

And is also known as a buster

Always talking ‘bout what he wants

And just sits on his broke ass

So, no, I don’t want your number

No, I don’t wanna give you mine

And no, I don’t wanna meet you nowhere

No, I don’t want none of your time (TLC’s “No Scrubs”)

I remember happily singing along to this song when it first came out. Although at the time it never really factored into my worldview, I remember agreeing with the general sentiment of not wanting to give a man a chance, who was below my standards.

Fast forward to the present day with a growing movement of men who resent women who expect and require men to spend their money in exchange for a woman’s time, companionship and courtship. I certainly will not place the blame squarely on men for this shift. The pervasive feminist ideology continues to deliver an extreme version of women’s independence that would deny both the presence and importance of a woman’s basic femininity, while glorifying and promoting a financial model where men receive the same benefits from women that they always received, at half the price. How sway?!

Yes, there are increasingly more women in the workforce than there used to be, but this doesn’t negate the fact that the average woman still expects and requires a man to be a provider. Whether or not he is the SOLE provider is a personal choice. Nonetheless, a woman respects, desires, and prefers a man with more resources and the men with the most resources will always have the most and best selection when it comes to picking a mate. It’s not a superficial desire, it’s survival. If all men are created equal, I could just as easily love a wealthy one, as a “struggling” one, especially if I have to deal with the same relationship challenges from both.

When I have conversations about this with friends, associates, social settings, the entire group becomes divided. Without fail, insults, complaints, and derogatory comments always rear their ugly heads. Instead of accepting this as a fact, or even simply my myopic worldview, men almost always label me a gold digger or sarcastically wish me luck in my journey. It makes a “financially struggling” man’s ego feel better about not being able to obtain a certain kind of woman by trying to convince her that she probably won’t be able to obtain the kind of man she wants, either. But for every New Age, hyper-liberal, forward-thinking “genderless” geared male, there are about 50 more men who are making the necessary money and are pursuing women with my exact philosophy, with reckless abandon.

If it works for the parties involved, why are you so disgruntled? Shouldn’t you be off somewhere trying to make more money so you don’t have to shed your “broke” tears about how transactional women are and how hard it is to find a woman who prioritizes your character over what’s in your wallet? Why not pursue the legions of women who wholeheartedly believe and support the notion of building with a man?

NEWSFLASH! Women who want financially successful and secure partners are not required to entertain broke men. If you believe that a woman will die alone and miserable, is the solution to lower her standards and settle for a life that she does not want? These women are already building a life that they want independent of a man. Contrary to popular erroneous assumptions, they are not sitting around filing their nails awaiting a knight in shining armor to come and rescue them from a poverty-stricken life. They are catching flights, eating well, shopping, building businesses, and more. They want partners that match and supersede the standards that they already established for themselves. After they get married and decide to have children, they deserve partners that will be able to sustain this life should they desire to take a break and nurture their children and prioritize their families.

Desiring money is not vapid. We simply can not live without it. Convincing women that they are superficial and undeserving of a certain quality of life is low vibrational and irrational.

Convincing the vast majority of women that they’ll never have the man that they desire is just a cover for the insecurity you feel as a man who can’t deliver what is being required or a woman who never thought to require and desire the same. Vilifying economic success or dismissing the importance of the role money plays in our daily lives does not impact the reality of how pertinent money is.

It’s bitter broke men who lack ambition, that would rather try to shame women about having standards and push the 50/50 paradigm that has severely damaged the dating pool. Instead of convincing women that don’t want broke men, why they should see the potential in a man and or struggle with him while he self-actualizes, why not just find a woman that wants to build with you? Or who shares a similar life philosophy? The problem is that these men want the women who don’t want them and to that, I say, “women value men with resources. Make more of it or shut up.”